Self Esteem

What does self-esteem mean?

Self esteem is a way in which a child values himself.

What are the characteristics of children with high self-esteem?

These children:

  • Make friends easily
  • Show enthusiasm for new activities
  • Are cooperative and follow age appropriate rules
  • Are able to control their behaviour
  • Play by themselves and with other children
  • Are creative and have their own ideas
  • Are happy, full of energy and talk to others without much encouragement

What are the characteristics of children with low self esteem?

They :

  • Are unhappy
  • Have poor self confidence
  • Have feeling of hopelessness
  • Feel tired or fatigue most of the time
  • Look on the worst side of everything
  • Have no self respect
  • Perform poorly in school

What are positive factors for self esteem?

Factors which nurture or boost self esteem include:

  • Love
  • Security
  • Guidance
  • Acknowledgement
  • Encouragement

How can you help to build high self esteem in your child?

You should:

  • Praise your child’s successes, even small ones
  • Give sincere affection
  • Show interest in each child’s activities, projects or problems
  • Explain to child what to do and what not to do
  • Try to ignore temper tantrums and other negative behaviour
  • Show appreciation when your child cooperate, help you, say kind things to other children
  • Respond affectionately when your child behave well
  • When a child misbehaves, separate the misbehaviour from the child, e.g. say “I don’t like it when you throw toys, but I still like you.”

There are also actions that may lower children’s self-esteem

They include :

  • Expecting too much or too little from children
  • Yelling or criticizing children, especially in front of other people
  • Calling children clumsy, stupid, lazy etc.
  • Overprotecting or neglecting children
Last Reviewed : 20 April 2012
Writer : Dr. Baizury binti Bashah
Reviewer : Pn. Fariz Sakina binti Abdullah